Fluffy and Offensive

hey, you don’t agree with me one something?

crazy thing about america, free speech and all. and seperation of power and church. crazy concept right?

oh, you’ve never heard of it?

well that sure explains a lot you dimwit twat of a shit bag.

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Day of Silence

If I am correct, Day of Silence is tomorrow. I didn’t really plan on it and didn’t really even realize it was tomorrow till last night, so I don’t think I will be partaking in it. But this is what I have to say on the whole matter.

It is often said that Day of Silence is about Gay Rights. Lets take this back just a bit. Gay Rights. Gay rights would imply that it is only the movement for gay gentleman to have rights. Not saying they shouldn’t, but I think we all know that this is more than just gay men. This is not a rights movement purely for fetish’s and sex and beards everywhere. This isn’t just about lust, or love, or a piece of paper with your name on it. 

This is about Gay, Bisexual, Lesbian, Pansexual, Asexual, Polysexual, Demisexual, Genderqueer, Agender, Bigender, and Transgender and everything-else-in-between rights. This is about not being afraid to be who you know you are, who you didn’t choose to be but who you’ve accepted to become. To be that person that can take a step forward when everyone wants to take one back. To be able to talk about the safety of more than just one kind of sex in one position in school. To be able to be in a locker room without the worry of someone catching you looking the wrong way for a second. To be able to raise your hand to tell the teacher your name and not have this small panic attack in the back of your head over whether or not they will call you out on it.  To not have to worry about saying something and not being able to get a paycheck for it. To not have to stand around for ten minutes wondering which bathroom you should use, which store will let you in a fitting room, and which state you can get away with being you in. 

This is about safety in sex, mental, and physical health. This is about freedom. This is America and this is a demand for not Gay Rights, but Human Rights. We cannot stay silent, we cannot stop “whining”, and we WILL NOT step down. We have always been here, always will be here, and we are here now. You don’t have to love us, but you need to respect us.

Thank you.

things i don’t understand

this sanctity of marriage stuff?

how is there any kind of sanctity if it’s only okay to be with someone of the opposite gender regardless of feelings?

what the fuck are they protecting?

on a side note:

today my boss (in an attempt to insult me ((she doesn’t know i’m trans. she knows i go by nik, but considering that most people call me that anyways and my nickname growing up was closer to nik than it was my birth name, i’m used to going with it by now and she just doesn’t question it (((see guys? i’m not even on T yet and i can get shit that makes me feel comfortable. it really is about confidence!)))))) she said “you are just as bad as the guys are about working the oven!” (guys being the peeps that don’t have dicks inbetween their legs ((she’s told me a couple times about how much cleaner and nicer girls are and how disgusting men are and how she wishes she could just be a lesbian like her sister…(((my boss is a very likable person, she just has weird moments, i don’t think she’s being entirely serious…i think…)))))) anyways, i was all pouty to her face, and then she left and i was all *beam* and it was awesome sauce.

random gender thought is only somewhat random (somewhat triggering)

so i’ve been seeing a lot of people having to explain as to why they want to change their gender even though if they changed the gender they are perceived as they’d be considered gay. 

so i guess this kind of can only apply to people who are also gay and have a hard time understanding this, you know what gender you are. yes? you are comfortable with your genitals and your chest and everything perceived in between. yes? but you still love the same sex, yes? i’m sure you understand that love is not about gender.

love has never been about gender.

just as gender has never been about love.

you’re going to feel about your body what you are going to feel, and you are going to love who you are going to love. separate things people. completely. separate. things.

you do not become so gay that you become the other gender. just as you you don’t start off gay, switch genders, and then become gay all over agian. this is not how it works, this is never how it’s worked. you can be curious, you can be confused, but you can not switch teams like it’s red rover.

for everyone that feels like they’re surrounded by bigots

today, someone that since the beginning of the school year, has kind of backhanded the whole being trans thing, and completely disrespecting me about it, asked me what my preferred name and pronouns were.

i had to deal with this guy everyday for at least three hours all school year, so i had kind of given up on correcting him, or trying to sway the way he looked at me. he would call me by my name he had met with three years ago (we used to ride the bus together.) and insisted that i wasn’t trans, i was just a “gender illusionist”. he’s kind of an all around offensive kind of guy, and i’ve got a pretty offensive sense of humor, so i’ve mostly just gone off this for being friends and having to spend so much time together compared to most people.

and the lesson really is here, everyone, moving around, trying to go somewhere were no one knows you, really doesn’t help in the end. it doesn’t raise awareness, it doesn’t make someone question the way they think about something. i know this can be really hard, and sometimes it seems horribly unfair, but maybe, we’re made the way we are, where we are, to help other people who are just like us later on. if we can deal with it so future children and teenagers don’t have to, i’ll take the bullet. it works, and it’s hard, but it’s worth it guys.

homophobia and accepting LGB people

i would also like to mention this goes for transphobic people as well.

it is not completely out of the norm to accept people of the LGBT community and still be homophobic. 

and although it’s alright to be homophobic under that circumstance, it’s not alright to avoid doing anything about it and justifying your fear by saying “well, i think they can do this, but not do this.”

it’s kind of like having the fear of turning left. sure, it’s unfortunate, i will understand to an extent, but eventually i’m going to get pissed off at you if you never do anything to overcome this fear of turning left. you are slowing me down whenever we hang out and it’s not my job to compensate for your fear.

someone who is homophobic but not against LGBT people can classify as:

“i’m okay with gay people, just not when they’re in front of me displaying it.”

that’s okay. i understand that something you’ve never been particularly exposed to until now makes you uncomfortable. but you need to work at getting comfortable, because i’m not limiting my affections or what i want to do for you. 

the world is ever changing, learn to go with it.

as for LGBT people who like to use homophobia as an insult or get angry at people for being homophobic, try to be patient. i bet it took some time for you to get comfortable with you being gay, but you have to wake up and deal with yourself every day. you had to work at it. these are people that haven’t necessarily been exposed to or had to work with it. if someone is homophobic but open to working on it, then let them. don’t you dare put them down, don’t you dare get impatient. because you are the teacher and if the teacher gives up on the student, how the hell is the world supposed to come to terms with being ignorant and trying to educate itself. 

everything goes both ways. no one is in the right. but that doesn’t mean everyone can’t be put there.